My husband has had a stroke, but I hate feeling like his carer | Ask Philippa
Life and style | The Guardian
Ask if he would accept help from a physiotherapist – for your sake. You’re in crisis mode so he won’t be able to change his way of coping at the moment
The question My husband had a mild stroke several months ago. He’s a 60-something scientist and used to solving everything with his mind, but he has had to work hard physically to recover his walking. He’s gone from a wheelchair in hospital to a walker at home and is now using a cane. But he’s getting frustrated at his slow progress as he wants to think his way out of this and not exercise his way back to health.
I feel like I’ve been nagging him to do his exercises and feel more like his mother than his wife these days. I find myself getting angry and resentful at times, because he’s not sharing anything emotionally with me (he never was good at it before, so I don’t know why I would expect it now) and I feel very remote from him.
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